Don't Ever Forget About the Parents

To say that being a grandparent today is a bit complicated is like saying Calculus is 1+1=2.

While the core principles endure, there has been a significant evolution. The foundational desires such as aspiring to be the most exceptional grandparent or wishing to enrich these young lives with wisdom and guide them towards a fulfilling and prosperous life remain unchanged. The real challenge lies in implementing actions within family relationships that propel you towards achieving these noble goals.

In my first book about grandparents, I concluded with the statement, "Life is complicated, family life is even more complicated, and extended family life is exponentially complicated." To put it in a colloquial metaphor, "Just chew on that one for a moment."

Our goal is to challenge the status quo and proclaim, “I preferred life in the so-called good old days.” However, while those times may be old, their goodness remains subjective. More importantly, regardless of our preferences or inclinations, we must face the undeniable truth – reality is unchanging and absolute.

The first step to being a GOOD Grandparent in today’s world is to be really, really, really clear about the landscape. I have studied this subject extensively for over 10 years and can help you calibrate your compass as a Grandparent in today’s world. Let’s start with the United States of America Constitution mentioning Grandparents’ rights. However, there are 4 mentions of parent’s rights in varying degrees of specificity. (No fair arguing with me; I didn’t write it.) Based on that fact, let me give you one of the most meaningful tools I have developed to help you navigate your grandparents’ journey in today’s times. Arm yourself with this question………” How much do you want to pay to be right?”

When I came to that realization, I stumbled upon a bit of wisdom that goes far beyond Grandparenting. That question will come in handy every day of your life in all circumstances. However, I digress. The other tool in your Grandparenting toolbox is to do everything, let me repeat that, EVERYTHING, with the best interest of your Grandchildren in mind.

I applaud your intent, and together, we, as Grandparents, can add massive value to our families by being mindful of showing up as our Highest and Best Self.