Don't Ever Forget About the Parents

To say that being a grandparent today is a bit complicated is like saying Calculus is 1+1=2.

While the fundamental aspirations of grandparents remain constant across generations—the desire to be cherished and remembered as an exceptional grandparent, the longing to impart wisdom and life lessons to their grandchildren, and the hope of guiding them towards a fulfilling and prosperous future—the methods of achieving these goals have evolved significantly. The world today is vastly different from the one our grandparents and even our parents grew up in, and these changes necessitate a shift in how we approach the grandparent-grandchild relationship.

The complexities of family dynamics have always been present, but they have been amplified in today's world. As I explored in my first book on the subject of grandparents, "Life is complicated, family life is even more complicated, and extended family life is exponentially complicated." This statement, which I encouraged readers to "chew on for a moment," highlights the multifaceted challenges inherent in navigating these relationships. The addition of geographical distance, blended families, and the fast-paced nature of modern life can further complicate matters.

Therefore, while the core principles of grandparenting remain steadfast, the strategies for effectively implementing them must adapt to the changing landscape of family life. This involves recognizing the unique challenges and opportunities presented by the modern world and finding innovative ways to connect with and support grandchildren while respecting the evolving dynamics of family relationships.

Our goal is to challenge the status quo and proclaim, “I preferred life in the so-called good old days.” However, while those times may be old, their goodness remains subjective. More importantly, regardless of our preferences or inclinations, we must face the undeniable truth – reality is unchanging and absolute.

The first step to being a GOOD Grandparent in today’s world is to be really, really, really clear about the landscape. I have studied this subject extensively for over 10 years and can help you calibrate your compass as a Grandparent in today’s world. Let’s start with the United States of America Constitution mentioning Grandparents’ rights. However, there are 4 mentions of parent’s rights in varying degrees of specificity. (No fair arguing with me; I didn’t write it.) Based on that fact, let me give you one of the most meaningful tools I have developed to help you navigate your grandparents’ journey in today’s times. Arm yourself with this question………” How much do you want to pay to be right?”

When I came to that realization, I stumbled upon a bit of wisdom that goes far beyond Grandparenting. That question will come in handy every day of your life in all circumstances. However, I digress. The other tool in your Grandparenting toolbox is to do everything, let me repeat that, EVERYTHING, with the best interest of your Grandchildren in mind.

I applaud your intent, and together, we, as Grandparents, can add massive value to our families by being mindful of showing up as our Highest and Best Self.